I'm sorry that you're frustrated. Unfortunately we, as LDraw.org, only publish the file format and the library. All the other programs are written by volunteers on their spare time as a hobby. Since the focus lately has been on expanding the library, the support for external 3D programs has lagged.
That said, if the 3DS export on LDView isn't working right for you, I'm positive that Travis Cobbs will have a look at your problem if you contact him.
That said, if the 3DS export on LDView isn't working right for you, I'm positive that Travis Cobbs will have a look at your problem if you contact him.